“"I’m looking for qualities beyond the physical" ~Dr. Erskine in Captain America
A common misconception in my generation and especially among girls is that if you see a boy, who is physically attractive, and you look at him, even for a moment, you are automatically in love.
Well guess what? I am firmly against this. It annoys me to no end when people do this. First of all, I am only fifteen, way too young to be dating or even looking at boys that way. Second, if it’s for fun and just joking…so be it, that’s cool, just don’t make it serious.
It seems like I am constantly picking at my IRL (in “real life”) friends…but this gets me often. Okay, so allow me to set the scene.
I am at P.E. group, where there are about five or six other girls (including me) and about twelve to fifteen other guys. A few of those guys happen to be fairly attractive. They’re athletic and are honestly pretty cute. Just because I look at them, or notice that they exist, or remember their name does NOT mean that I am in love with them, or have a crush on them or am planning my wedding to him. Because the physical attractiveness (though a bonus) is not what matters to me. I am not looking for a hot guy to date or marry….that’s not what‘s important. I want a good man as my boyfriend/husband.
I think this is why I am attracted to the fictional character of Steve Rogers. He is a GOOD MAN. Yes, he’s incredibly physically attractive, but that’s a bonus. I liked “skinny” Steve….before he became Captain America. I like his heart. He has a good heart; he cares for others and thinks of them before himself. He respects women and his friends, and himself. He is humble. He is kind.
I want my husband to be like Steve Rogers. I want a man who has a strong heart for God, and a firm foundation in his faith. I want a man who will tell me the truth, and also what I want to hear. I want a man who will love me for me, not because I am a super skinny lingerie model, or have a big butt or large chest or anything like that. I want a guy who will geek out with me, get excited over Star Wars and Super Heroes, and who speaks my language. I want someone who knows my heart and is my best friend. I want someone who agrees with me politically and morally, and holds the same values I do. Someone who will want to homeschool. Someone who will stand by me when the going gets tough. Someone to laugh with, and who won’t be ashamed if we’re a tad bit insane. Someone who is humble, and sweet, and loving and smart and loyal and faithful and strong. Someone who has a good heart.
(yes, that is a steve rogers valentine, made for me by my awesome friend chris!! thanks chris!! :D)
And I know he is out there. God has designed that perfect someone for me. I will wait until he arrives, patiently and mooning over fictional men in the meantime. But I will wait. I know that everything happens in God’s perfect time, and that when it is HIS time, things will go according to HIS plan. ;)
So who else hates it that people of the opposite gender can’t just be friends?! Who thinks that it’s as annoying as heck when people make a big deal about the stupidest, smallest things that have to do with a boy?
I do. I don’t mind if we’re just playing around, but sometimes it just is really annoying, ya know? I mean….just because I think someone is cute, or is nice, or I remember their name, or I say hi to them doesn’t mean that I automatically “Like-like” that person. It’s a common misconception among teenage girls…..which is something I really don’t get.
My mom has pointed out to me that I have no problem being social with people who have common interests as me. It’s true. I can talk to a total stranger about Star Wars or Avengers or The Clone Wars, but if there is no common interest, I get pretty awkward. :P So if I am awkward around a guy my age, it’s not because I’m madly in love with him and shy to say anything, it’s because I have no clue how to act in front of him or what to say without sounding like a total idiot because there is no common interest.
One more thing that I need to get off my chest is that this fact about girls and guys not being able to be friends over the age of ten without it being romantic is true even for internet friendships. I am friends with a few awesome guys, all really nice and cool, who I talk to often. We’ll tweet back and forth, email sometimes, and even chat over Skype. But as soon as my IRL friends (and even my family before I threatened them with my lightsaber) found out about that, I was suddenly in love. Guess what? I’m not. I have friends, and there is no crime in that. Even internet people do that, which is just rude. I mean, come on, why is it so wrong for two people to be friends? Just friends? Why is that so hard for people to wrap their minds around? Is it that difficult to understand?
Now I’ll lead into a second part of this post….Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day is today. Happy V-Day!!! This is the day we celebrate love….though I think love should be celebrated every day. The whole “guys and girls can’t be friend” thing is almost put in neon lights during this time of the year. Friends dare friends to do stupid things, and to say stupid things, and to make moves and all that. It’s not right. If you’ve got a boyfriend or a girlfriend, good for you!!! Celebrate with them! Show them how much you care!! But if you don’t, don’t moan and whine about how you’re “Forever Alone” because it’s just lame. I joke around saying I’m “Forever Alone” all the time, just because it’s a funny Tumblr thing. But in reality, if you say that, and project that attitude, you WILL be alone. God meant for man and woman to be partners. He created women to be a companion to men. Lifelong companions. He created that person for you. Don’t do foolish things just because you /think/ you’re in love. Because guess what? Your Heavenly Father loves you more than Johnny from Math Class ever will, and He will send that right person into your life when He is good and ready to.
Happy Valentine’s Day everyone… I love you. :)
